26. Jan, 2022
Have you been considering getting help for your problem only for a certain "Something inside yourself" hold you back?
Perhaps you have looked at this site before, contemplating getting in touch, only to decide that you'll wait till later, next week perhaps, when you aren't so busy.
You might have gone so far as to make contact with me only to change your mind at the last minute.
If so, you may be surprised to learn that it's OK and that your reaction was perfectly normal.
Resistance to therapy - and to the change that it brings about - is a well documented and widely acknowledged phenomenon and one which I have experienced myself as a client in therapy.
In order to get round it, it may help to understand just what resistance is, it's purpose and how it comes about.
The subconscious mind is one of the oldest parts of the brain and one of it's main functions is to keep you safe from danger.
Most fears, phobias and other anxiety states are coping or defence mechanisms that have arisen from previous experiences where it thought that there was a threat to safety - whether that situation was real or imagined.
And that is the crux of the matter as the subconscious cannot tell what is real or not (how scared can you get watching a horror film or reading a ghost story for instance?) nor does it do logic. Any attempt to dismantle this defence mechanism therefore will be met with a fierce resistance. Initially at least as over time, as understanding develops, this fear subsides.
It may be necessary then to take steps towards your goal and this is why I encourage you to get in touch with any queries you may have, there will be no obligation to go further, no hard sell or fancy sales techniques - in fact a therapist's job is much easier when resistance is out of the way.